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A Cultivated Fairy Tale


Indeed, girls are normally influenced by  the idea of love from television shows. Romantic conversations from televisions affect girls’ personal relationships. Soap operas, displayed on television shows make girls believe that the contents aired on televisions are representative of ideal love situations. On many occasions, every woman would like to identify with a particular television movie, adverts, soaps and operas  that are unique and suits her instinct, not forgetting that the show  choice is currently and blazing.

Watching television for a long time leads to stress and loneliness, which affects girls’ relationships, because they may have little time to share with their boyfriends. People usually become accustomed to stress to maintain some impression of balance. Stressors bring out responses from an individual’s whole body that include physiological and psychological components. The physiological responses to stress take place in the nervous system where the body is alerted of the occurrence of distress. The end result is usually the adrenal gland enlargement. Stress caused by television results in the problem of decreased quality performance and productivity. Under these circumstances, individuals perform duties assigned to them below their full potential. The individuals suffering from stress may make poor decisions that result in mistakes. Moreover, relationship stress is normally characterized by attention to details deficit. Stress may make people lose concentration and fail to follow instructions; in the end such workers are likely to perform lower quality assignments. Stressed people have a tendency of  appearing preoccupied and dreaming. They could be preoccupied by the possibility of losing their relationships or they could be daydreaming about the great things they have ought to have achieved in life.

Another issue to be explored in this research is that television shows certain movies on violence, which destroy family relationships. It has been witnessed that some girls have committed crimes due to the influence of movies watched on televisions. Such unfortunate incidents have led to breakage of relationships, especially when close friends fight among themselves. As a result, love becomes sour and hatred develops among girls, who are friends to each other. Moreover, television has a direct influence on college sexuality relationships.

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According to Arnett (1995), watching television shows make girls to develop relationships according to classes, which are based on income differentials. For instance, a man from an upper class family may tend to identify more with girls from affluent families. This will act as a security in their relationship. It is through this class difference that a relationship is created among different classes of girls in the society.

Biagi  (2011) studied that girls with low self-esteem may not disturb themselves with television shows since they do not care much about what their potential boyfriends talk about them. However, girls with high self-esteem usually grab any television shows that they watch, because always want to surprise their boyfriends with the current television contents aired. This is an observation that can be made witnessed among many girls who are currently in love relationships (Biagi, 2011). Such girls tend to incline to a particular social group, and consider themselves as higher class than the ones who do not frequent television shows. In fact, this affects the girls’ relationships with other fellows who in most cases think they are inferior to this class. Furthermore, girls can confirm the fact that any astute observation leads to the conclusion that certain classes of girls identifies with certain television shows  to boost their relationships (Biagi, 2010).

In considering the effects of television shows on relationships, the notion of class comes clear, and that it is easier for one to note that different girls with different television shows preferences have nothing to share in common. These two groups are distinct and cannot be true friends, and as a result of this may not have a meaningful relationship with their fellow girls. In contrary, girls who find that they are more oriented on television shows also form a class of people with meaningful relationships. Girls' relationships with their husbands are normally interfered with when such girls place excess demands of television shows (De Valck, Van Bruggen & Wierenga, 2009).

Ferguson (1983) ascertained that there are no similar effects of television shows on girls, and when considering the effects, then all cases should be dealt with distinctly. Moreover, what one woman's desire when it comes to television shows  may differ even when these girls come from the same social class, and that is the justification for different appearances in terms of contents aired. For example, in marriage, television shows are one of the major causes of marital conflicts, which destroys relationships. In most households, girls do dot want to bypass any current television shows aired. In essence, they seduce their husbands to meet the cost of acquiring sets of televisions that offer more channels and clarity. However, the husband may not have enough cash to meet the cost, but this truth may not translate well to the girls, consequently leading to conflict in the house (Ferguson, 1983).

In some cases, some televised shows come in different romantic contents, that may either spice up or break up relationships. Normally people tend to identify with such television shows blindly, without identifying the underlying truth about them. It is also worth noting that every 14th February of the year comes to  television shows to mark the valentine celebration, which is a big boost for love and boy-girl relationships. In this 14th day of the month, almost every informed woman would like to identify with red as the color of the day. Therefore, they tend to dissociate from those who dress normally, and assume that they are more updated on the most romantic television shows than the others. In this case, class issue once again brings the relationship hurdle among girls or between girls and their husbands.

According to Larson and  Richards (1994), televised shows are very costly, because they lure  girls to spend a lot of money to appear more attractive and sexier. For example, a classical woman who wants to appear unique. In the first place, they are made to adopt what they watch from the television shows, which include, the makeup from the feet, with sparkling colors, the art of state dress with a quite unique finish, nail polish, red lipstick, and unbelievable hair style that may attract every kind of attention. Such a woman may have spent a lot of money that, if had to come from a third party, would mean total disagreement in availing the cash. Therefore, this can cause tension in a family, and at times, the demands may result into a stage show between the two people. It is from such occurrence that most relationships break, as one party may accuse the other of irresponsibility and the other party retaliates on exploitation grounds. At this level, relationship mistrust emerges, and what used to a peaceful relationship turns chaotic, irresponsibility and possible neglect.  

It is evident from television shows on romance  that sexual desires are normally linked to emotions and unrestrained expressions. Communication is vital in expressing sexual desires and complex emotional state. This forms the basis for negotiating for relationships and emotional meanings. There exist differences in communicating sexual desires, for instance, men are alleged to be more interested in sex than girls. This can be credited to men being less forbidden by the societal norms for expressing the desire, knowing more about the sexual desires or succumbing to the prospects of the gender culture. On the other hand, girls initially took passive roles in advocating for love and employed indirect tactics to show their sexual desire. However, with time girls too have come to the realization that their potential look advances sexual desires. Girls have also opted to use their feminism to advance their likes and dislikes regarding marriage, children and work. This empowerment comes from television media that carry topics on work, career together with conventional subjects for instance television shows , relationships and entertainment.

Hermes (1995) reported that some of the televised shows focus mainly on making tough decision that affect family relationships, for example, whether girls should quit working and start a family. Decisions taken by girls after reading such television shows are the decisions they believe are right, depending on the prevailing conditions. Therefore, a woman in a relationship may decide to walk out or strengthen her relationship with her boyfriend after viewing television shows and heeding to advise recommended, discourage and strength. Girls who view television shows  may also get to know  how to take care of their husbands and children. The television shows enlighten girls on how they can be beautiful in spite of being busy. The television shows centering on natural ways aimed at making girls appealing to their beloved ones.

Gulford and Dushkin (2006) reported that  television shows watched by girls been observed in some cases as enticing the girls into slimming to appear smart, but the effects might destabilize family relationships. The end result may be the risk of getting anorexia which is an emotional disorder characterized by an infatuated desire to lose weight by refusing to eat more, which is a very traumatizing condition for the family members. Girls are normally influenced by the mass media messages and images that affect the desire of wanting to be like the super models (Gulford & Dushkin, 2006). Anorexia, which is a dangerous medical condition occurs during the adolescence stage which is worrying because, it is during an adolescence stage that girls start the socialization and identity development. Girls television media contribute significantly towards the development of the anorexic condition in regard to gender roles leaning, When girls fail to eat and become thin  so as to be  attractive as the super models they may develop complications and eventually. Therefore, it is  worth noting that even if the girls wanted to be attractive to men, indeed, very thin girls may not attract attention at all from men.


Cultivation  theory postulates that individuals often agree with what they see and hear from their television sets. These views are “presented on the television sets and often accepted by the individuals as a true representation of reality” (Gerbner, 2002). Therefore, individuals take the view to be the representative of their individual hopes, understandings as well as fears (Gerbner, 2002). This theory ascertains that the media influence has a direct impact on the way news reports and other issues concerning the mind of the public are presented,. The theory analyses ‘what’ and ‘how’ people ought to think. As per this theory, the media play a very important role in editing the content of the information that goes to the general public. Therefore, the media act as the regulator of the quality and content of the information that is meant to be aired for public viewing. This would mean that the news are framed and contextualized in a way that is appealing to the audience.

Cultivation theory re-affirms that watching television has long term effects, which affects the audience gradually. Individuals who watch television for a long time, through their ‘cultivating’ attitudes,  are made to believe in the notion that the world created by the TV is an ideal representation of a perfect world (Gerbner, 2002). Watching television for a long time creates a particular paradigm regarding world violence. The cultivation effects are categorized into two orders such as a generalized world belief and specific attitudes. Specific attitudes include hatred, violence, pedophiles, disregard for law and order, among others.

Cultivation theory postulates that the ‘cultivating’ attitudes are pegged on those attitudes that already exist in the society and media re-present them in a different bundled format to the audience. The tenets of cultivation theory are based on the knowledge that television media merely cultivate the status quo, instead of challenging it. Many people who watch television are always not aware of the degree at which they absorb the televised media content. Such people even tend to believe that they are moderate viewers, while in the real sense, they are regarded as heavy viewers (Gerbner, 2002).

Cultivation theory focuses on television violence, which has been a strongly debated topic. However, some studies go beyond the violence study to cover political attitudes, demographics, gender and  cultural representations. Cultivation theory makes viewers believe that the world more dangerous that it is, because it is full of violence, rapists, pedophiles and serial killers (Gerbner, 2002). Moreover, the cultivation theory can be used to explore college sexuality, especially among girls.

It can be argued that the increase in college sexuality relationships was as a direct result of televised western culture that liberalized the sexual environment. Since the freedom at college gave the students ample time to learn from one another, it affected their friendship choices and sexuality. Today, college sexuality is rampant because the students from different sexual backgrounds mix with others. This led to the emergence of sexual literature and pornography in college. Prostitution also became evidenced and popular among the college students. In this regard, the feminists attacked the sexual privileges, which the men had. At this time, sex education became rampant because the college girls and gents started to embrace the radical theory when tackling issues related to sex, which was in itself a form of sexual education. The affected women would take urgent measures in dealing with situations about their sexuality and those of other colleagues. Moreover, the practice became more common among the college students compared to the ones whose level of education was lower than the tertiary level. In fact, their sexual identity and the laws were different and affected their life and choices.

Whether or not one has a right to sex is a debatable issue, especially from an ethical or non-ethical standpoint. Indeed, one is entitled to his/her opinion about the matter, despite the rational argument that the college sexuality comes in natural and artificial form. College sexuality relationship comes as a consequence of an influence that the colleagues exert on an individual. On the other hand, it is intentionally practiced among the people because of exposure to internet pornographic materials, which display explicit pictures to the people. Since artificially induced sex such as those from the televised media is largely regarded as illegal, it might affect a person’s life and his or her closest colleagues, and could have serious psychological repercussions, sometimes leading to addiction.

The argument supports the perception that the young people have the free will to sex, but respects the natural course of their sexuality. When a person is fully aware of the natural aspect of sexuality, he/she would not fear to face sex and its consequences. In addition, since certain consequences of sex cannot be easily determined, no-one would like to miss sexual encounter, but will subsequently succumb to this irresistible reality of being influenced into college sex.This clearly indicates that once living, sex is almost a must. However, a person has the right to choose the right time to have sex or to terminate sexual behavior he or she feels uncomfortable with. As a result, when sex interest comes in its right time, the person does not have any choice, but just to indulge, a situation commonly practiced in most colleges to date. Group forces could also determine the time and nature of one’s sex engagement. This does not translate to an absolute sexual influence, but a transitional process leading one to unpredictable sexual practice.

College sexuality relationship today is a very controversial matter and one that is difficult to perceive and control. The reason for this is that the desire, preference and feelings are determined by the person’s gender, choices and orientation. In addition, the sexual nature of an individual is best developed after one acknowledges his or her gender identity and respects the other people in society. This is important because self-formation differs according to one’s gender, a situation that affects his/her sexuality, performance and pleasure.      

The problem of college sexuality depends on individual interest and ethical issues (Jepsen, 2006). Bearing in mind that those who engage in sex have the mandate to do whatever it takes to protect their life, any issue that allows the student to request or demand that the sexual advance be terminated should be headed because it is her choice, life and not a mere coincidence of sexuality. In such cases, the partner has the obligation to uphold ethics during their negotiation, even if they are aware that the person might end his/her interest after a short period. 

The theoretical framework developed from  the cultivation theory  has various weaknesses that are evidenced from the negotiation and communication event analysis. The cultivation theory has various weaknesses, such as failing to incorporate societal views in any form of communication. However, individuals are not just affected by what they see and hear from their television sets, but also by other issues as well, such as their backgrounds. Besides, it fails to analyze that the television communications also impact on the light viewers. On the other hand, the heavy viewers often have some impacts on the wider society. In addition, the audience under this communication theoretical framework often plays a passive role, since they are not engaged in the active parts of the conversation. Their main role is to play the active part of listening and embracing the communicated and portrayed views from the television medium. Moreover, the theoretical framework that has been developed and analyzed in this paper incorporates the cultivation theory, which has been widely criticized for its weaknesses. The cultivation theory has been criticized for the fact that media users are often not ideal because they might tend not to pay attention to the details of the discussion. On the other hand, the effect of communication would be weakened, especially for those people who have already made up their minds regarding a topic or issues that are being communicated. Besides, this theory is weak in the sense that it portrays the media as being capable of creating problems, but this is not the case. This is so because the media is only capable of altering the content of the information that is intended to create some level of awareness among the audience. Conflicting dialogues and communication problems often emanate from the society, and it is the responsibility of the investigative journalism and the televised media to present the findings on the issues pertaining to negotiating and communicating events to the audience, which are very essential in maintaining healthy relationships.


Television affects girls’ relationships in many ways, because it makes them develop stress that affects their productivity in their relationships. At times, relationship stress can be associated with the increased television adverts/promotional campaigns for drugs and alcohol consumption. Moreover, when girls do stressful work, they may overindulge in alcohol and drugs to ease the pressure that may come from their partners or those they are in relationships with. For example, senior employees have set targets from the company; these targets are supposed to be met by the time the year ends. In order tome the targets, senior employees are known to pile pressure on junior employees. On the other, physical indicators of work stress include increased blood pressure, difficulty in waking up or even falling asleep. It has been seen that the more lonely and isolated girls become, the greater is their vulnerability to breaking relationships.

Television has content that affects the relationship,  attitude and behaviors of children, especially girls in a number of ways, which leads to violence that ruins their interpersonal relationships. All members of the society are influenced indirectly and directly by powerful television media that include printed materials, sound recordings, televisions and even the internet. The effects of television vary according to the age of the child as well as their stages of development. The young children are still developing in their cognitive capacity to be able to differentiate what is reality and what is fantasy. Hence, this makes them more susceptible to be influenced by the television. Adolescents on the other hand have violent fantasies as well as emotional problems, which may be incited by the television. This can be increased in the case whereby their peers and family seem to support the use of violence.

Certain characteristics of viewers such as social environments and television content can have an influence on the degree on which the television can cause aggression, which destroys friendly relationships. Some avenues allow for this influence such as control of the television use by children, interpretation as well as parental supervision. However, it can be stated that there is no person who is entirely immune to the effects that television has (Kilinger, 2006).

The realistic actions that are displayed can have a much greater influence over children and teenagers as compared to animated action. At an early age, movies, televisions, books and the internet have an influence on children. As the children, grow the influences of the television keeps on increasing. This influence is not always positive hence, parents are required to discuss and monitor what the children are exposed to. Television has a stereotype towards some people as well as some races.  Most programs for children instill ideals in children that some people are good while others are bad. Some are shown to be either bad or smart thus children lean towards the stereotypes, which they see. However, parents can step in to undo such stereotyping by commenting about the group that is being portrayed in an inaccurate manner.

Children and teenagers internalize the behavior patterns of their primary role models hence those that grow up around positive influence will develop positively while those who grow up around negative influence will develop in a negative manner. Educational programs are important since they can teach children and teenagers important things such as sports, reading, writing, art and cooking.

There is a lot of television advertisement in America. The nation has been stigmatized with over-consumption and this has led to the citizens to be referred to as self-indulgent. This has arisen majorly from the materialism kind of behavior. This involves the devotion to material wealth at the expense of intellectual and spiritual values. Many teens have been affected by the lives of celebrities, which are portrayed to be interested only in materialistic items. Children are usually the targets of advertising since they are seen as the primary consumers of products at younger ages.

Televised violent movies, computer games and video games may have adverse effects on children, because they promote cruel relationships. Children and adults spend most of their time watching televisions hence this has a great impact on their lives. When children view violent acts, it means that by the time they reach 18, they will have watched very many of them.  This then results in violent behavior in the youth. The American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry has concluded that viewing television violence can result in loss of empathy for victims, emotional anesthetization to violence, distress as well as the view that violence can be acceptable as a means of solving problems (Lee & Kotler, 2011). The children are most likely to adopt the behavior of the character that is depicted as a hero and they are less likely to imitate the behavior of an actor that is portrayed as weak or punished.

There has been a relationship between violent video games and its influence on children. There is already some controversy about how video games have potential influence on either children or adults. It can be argued that the youth have been brainwashed as well as trained to kill while they play video games, which they have viewed on televisions. Some of these games teach the children the tactics of beating, stealing, strangling as well as hacking from games. An incident has previously occurred whereby a young boy of seventeen years was involved in a sniper incident. The police later made the statement that he made a good shot because he had received good practice while playing with a video game that was ultra-violent.

Some people have made an argument that the aggressive play occurs because of exposure to televised cartoons or games that contain violence should be distinguished from the aggressive behavior which is adopted with an intention to cause harm or damage. It has also been emphasized that those children do not have an intention to harm other people when they act out of aggression. However, it should be noted that aggression and violence both go hand in hand.

However, at times it proves to be difficult to determine how violent video games can contribute to some form of violent behavior. It can be used as a form of entertainment in many ways. However, it also affects children by taking away their social life; it causes emotional difficulties as well as poor forms of judgment that affects interpersonal relationships.

Researchers have done investigations in regards to how television has an impact on youth. It can affect the viewer’s aggression (Shonibare, 2010). This can be understood as the behavior that intends to harm another person. There are different forms of aggression such as verbal aggression, which involves saying harmful things to the victim. Indirect or relational aggression also exists and it is the behavior intends to harm a particular person. This is however enacted behind the person’s view. Some examples include telling lies so that a person may get into trouble or even saying things that will eventually harm the relationships of the person. Another type is the physical aggression, which ranges from acts that are less serious such as shoving and pushing and more serious types of assaults like fighting that can end up in serious risks of injury.

Research has also been done about the origin of this violent behavior. One of this is the fact that violence does not only arise from a single cause but rather from many factors. The influence of mass television has been viewed to be among the factors that tend to shape the behavior, which leads to aggression. Televised video games can have some benefits to children (Slife, 2006). It is important since it enables children to develop their decision-making skills since they are always on the move. The games are also important since they enhance the creativity of a child especially in terms of technology and design. The games are also important since they teach children motivation as well as cognitive skills. Research that has been done on children between the ages of four and five showed that their participation resulted in better letter recognition as well as sound associations with letters. Games have also had an impact on teenagers they have developed auditory reception and split-second decision making. It has also been proven that playing games can help the children who have attention deficit disorder.

It is possible to minimize the impact that television violence has on children by creating a family culture of empathy, non-violence and respect. It is also important to limit the exposure of children to violent television, especially when they are still young and vulnerable. The programs that children watch should be monitored to ensure that they watch limited or no programs that have violent themes. Parents should also help children to develop a distinction between fantasy and reality and to teach them that real life violence has some consequences. 

In conclusion, it is realized that different groups of girls respond to different television shows on different ways to enhance their relationships. Comparing these differences, it can be conclusive to note that television shows still have a lot of influence on girls, thereby resulting to relationship problems either among the girls or between the girls and their husbands.

In conclusion, the television show is an integral part of  personal interrelationships whether men or girls, what matters is the right use of television shows. Moreover, current television shows affect courtship processes. Courtship is a mutual relationship leading to marriage, with possible termination before the engaged people could realize the intention. Certain television shows fail to touch on courtship issues, which can remind individuals about the relationship leading to marriage without paying attention to issues, which might terminate it before the goal is realized. Notably, courtship is a complex cultural ritual that has been shaped by modernization. In fact, many things have changed and the people’s way of life has had dramatic shifts due to television shows watched. The reason for this is that both men and women did not have a choice of their partner as this was an issue left for the parents, thus part of the societal ritual in the past. The process of courtship was done by the parents without involving the man and woman to get married. For example, men who had reached maturity would ask their parents to arrange for their marriage, because it was the role of the parents to pay the dowry. The parents then arranged for the marriage, depending on their choice for his/her son or, daughter. However, television shows have led to drastic changes in personal relationships, socialization process and marriages.

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